First, the link for the Crowdfunding:
PLEASE HELP ....
And then, a little about me. After all, here I am, a stranger, begging for money. Not something I take lightly. But at this stage of the game, at 53, and having lived a life with a lot of loss and sadness, and some real bright spots as well, I've learned at some point you need to really realize when you have to just .. ask. Ask for help, even plead, if that's what's called for.
in 2010, my mother, in her 80's, the light of my life, began to suffer from dementia. It's honestly too painful now, five years later, for me to even describe what happened, and in decency to her, I won't share it all. I can't. But there were moments where she did not know me, and I was in the horrific position of trying to keep her safe in an environment where she was frightened, and only wanted to leave and ...go 'home'. This went on for some time, and then .. she was stricken by a stroke. A major, crippling stroke, she could no longer swallow more than a mouthful of food at a time. A feeding tube was out of the question because she was too bad off mentally and restraining her like a lunatic was NOT going to happen. I fed her and she received IV and supplements but she was in bad shape from the stroke as it was.
She couldn't move one side of her body at all.
Things began to worsen, and eventually she passed, after two months that did something to me I will never really recover from. I realized finally, all this time later, all the nightmares and waking up yelling in cold sweats later, all the tears and second guessing and grief and just missing her, later -- that this life is too short and too DEAR to pass on by and not be who and what you are.
I have never publicly shared this before.
My mother always supported me.
Always.
And so I guess it's sort of in her honor that I finally act to make me ....me.
I am on *extremely* limited funds and barely make it every month.
Please help me with this, this is VITAL to not only my legal standing and status, but my mental health as well. I am recovering from severe PTSD from all this ago when my mother passed, and I need help very, very badly now.
Thank you for looking and caring.
Suffer from intense gender dysphoria to the point it's hard for me to even go out the door some days. As an older FTM have a host of issues to deal with as it is, really could use a hand. Would love to get a head start on being able to afford T and top surgery... I literally have absolutely zero to go towards this and surgery...
It will, pretty much, give me a reason to go on, and a sense of normalcy I just don't have right now, to the point I honestly am in deep depression most of the time.
I need about five thousand dollars for top surgery, as well as about a year on hormone therapy. What you will get, I guess, is knowing you have drastically changed someone's life for the better, in ways I really can't even possibly begin to describe or explain right here.
Help out this pre-op pre-T guy ?
Thank you all so much for looking, hope you'll find it in your heart to help me out to feel more like the *REAL* me every day. It's a big, big deal.
PLEASE HELP ....
And then, a little about me. After all, here I am, a stranger, begging for money. Not something I take lightly. But at this stage of the game, at 53, and having lived a life with a lot of loss and sadness, and some real bright spots as well, I've learned at some point you need to really realize when you have to just .. ask. Ask for help, even plead, if that's what's called for.
in 2010, my mother, in her 80's, the light of my life, began to suffer from dementia. It's honestly too painful now, five years later, for me to even describe what happened, and in decency to her, I won't share it all. I can't. But there were moments where she did not know me, and I was in the horrific position of trying to keep her safe in an environment where she was frightened, and only wanted to leave and ...go 'home'. This went on for some time, and then .. she was stricken by a stroke. A major, crippling stroke, she could no longer swallow more than a mouthful of food at a time. A feeding tube was out of the question because she was too bad off mentally and restraining her like a lunatic was NOT going to happen. I fed her and she received IV and supplements but she was in bad shape from the stroke as it was.
She couldn't move one side of her body at all.
Things began to worsen, and eventually she passed, after two months that did something to me I will never really recover from. I realized finally, all this time later, all the nightmares and waking up yelling in cold sweats later, all the tears and second guessing and grief and just missing her, later -- that this life is too short and too DEAR to pass on by and not be who and what you are.
I have never publicly shared this before.
My mother always supported me.
Always.
And so I guess it's sort of in her honor that I finally act to make me ....me.
I am on *extremely* limited funds and barely make it every month.
Please help me with this, this is VITAL to not only my legal standing and status, but my mental health as well. I am recovering from severe PTSD from all this ago when my mother passed, and I need help very, very badly now.
Thank you for looking and caring.
Suffer from intense gender dysphoria to the point it's hard for me to even go out the door some days. As an older FTM have a host of issues to deal with as it is, really could use a hand. Would love to get a head start on being able to afford T and top surgery... I literally have absolutely zero to go towards this and surgery...
It will, pretty much, give me a reason to go on, and a sense of normalcy I just don't have right now, to the point I honestly am in deep depression most of the time.
I need about five thousand dollars for top surgery, as well as about a year on hormone therapy. What you will get, I guess, is knowing you have drastically changed someone's life for the better, in ways I really can't even possibly begin to describe or explain right here.
Help out this pre-op pre-T guy ?
Thank you all so much for looking, hope you'll find it in your heart to help me out to feel more like the *REAL* me every day. It's a big, big deal.
(05-01-2015, 07:05 PM)Mister Master Wrote: First, the link for the Crowdfunding:
PLEASE HELP ....
And then, a little about me. After all, here I am, a stranger, begging for money. Not something I take lightly. But at this stage of the game, at 53, and having lived a life with a lot of loss and sadness, and some real bright spots as well, I've learned at some point you need to really realize when you have to just .. ask. Ask for help, even plead, if that's what's called for.
in 2010, my mother, in her 80's, the light of my life, began to suffer from dementia. It's honestly too painful now, five years later, for me to even describe what happened, and in decency to her, I won't share it all. I can't. But there were moments where she did not know me, and I was in the horrific position of trying to keep her safe in an environment where she was frightened, and only wanted to leave and ...go 'home'. This went on for some time, and then .. she was stricken by a stroke. A major, crippling stroke, she could no longer swallow more than a mouthful of food at a time. A feeding tube was out of the question because she was too bad off mentally and restraining her like a lunatic was NOT going to happen. I fed her and she received IV and supplements but she was in bad shape from the stroke as it was.
She couldn't move one side of her body at all.
Things began to worsen, and eventually she passed, after two months that did something to me I will never really recover from. I realized finally, all this time later, all the nightmares and waking up yelling in cold sweats later, all the tears and second guessing and grief and just missing her, later -- that this life is too short and too DEAR to pass on by and not be who and what you are.
I have never publicly shared this before.
My mother always supported me.
Always.
And so I guess it's sort of in her honor that I finally act to make me ....me.
I am on *extremely* limited funds and barely make it every month.
Please help me with this, this is VITAL to not only my legal standing and status, but my mental health as well. I am recovering from severe PTSD from all this ago when my mother passed, and I need help very, very badly now.
Thank you for looking and caring.
Suffer from intense gender dysphoria to the point it's hard for me to even go out the door some days. As an older FTM have a host of issues to deal with as it is, really could use a hand. Would love to get a head start on being able to afford T and top surgery... I literally have absolutely zero to go towards this and surgery...
It will, pretty much, give me a reason to go on, and a sense of normalcy I just don't have right now, to the point I honestly am in deep depression most of the time.
I need about five thousand dollars for top surgery, as well as about a year on hormone therapy. What you will get, I guess, is knowing you have drastically changed someone's life for the better, in ways I really can't even possibly begin to describe or explain right here.
Help out this pre-op pre-T guy ?
Thank you all so much for looking, hope you'll find it in your heart to help me out to feel more like the *REAL* me every day. It's a big, big deal.
Since I don't know your entire situation I would like to respectfully suggest a few options that come to mind.
-Apply for food assistance
-Apply for rent assistance (cash) or if housing vouchers are available get it
-Make an appt. with social services for counseling for depression and get a referral for hormone treatment
-Apply for prescription assistance through social services since a 5ml vial is about $70 (1cc biwkly).
- I don't know where you are in your transition but usually you are required to live in the male role for a year without hormones before you can be referred for surgery
-You can change your name through the courts as well as petition to be recognized as male right now based on gender affirmation
-You can use the court papers to change your driver license, ss card
- Start living as a man now. Wear a tight undershirt (sports type) and present and interact with people as a pleasant compassionate man. Gender Identity is your compelling journey. Make it wroth your while now.
-If there is a medical school close to you, the doctors practicing there are a good place to start asking about top surgery.
-Locate a transgender support group ASAP, if there isn't one, form one yourself. Run a free ad on craigslist. Start building a support network of like-minded people.
-Request funds from Prosper, YouCaring etc.
-Generate income by doing something that helps others: run an ad on craigslist to be a companion for the elderly, walk dogs, run errands for the elderly, drive them to doctor appointments, etc. Those services are really needed by older people and they will pay to have compassionate service. The more you can help others the better your self-esteem and less depression you will feel while building your savings.
I wish you the best!